I'm used to waiting a bit longer. It's more typical to me for people to get to know each other for a couple of years before they get married. But shorter dating periods aren't uncommon.
No, I'm sorry. I'm not explaining this very well. Let me back up.
What most people here are used to is a longer period of time than you're considering to get to know someone before you marry them. When I say 'dating periods' I mean the amount of time spent getting to know each other before you're absolutely sure you want to marry them. So you know exactly what kind of person you're committing yourself to.
For most of us here, and possibly also for the person you're wishing to marry, getting to know someone after you're married isn't really something common where they come from. Which is why most people are so confused. Does that make sense?
What's usual is several months, at least where I'm from.
And usually, both people just kind of know. There's not a real system to it, but usually it's several months to a year of knowing each other.
When two people are dating, they just go out to dinner, movies, maybe dance, or do other things that they both enjoy together. Usually sometime along the way you meet each other's family, and if they approve, then marriage usually follows thereafter. But that's not guaranteed of every couple going out together. Sometimes people go out and they just don't click. Then they both go find other people and try again.
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I hope to get to know him better through marriage, however.
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I'm used to waiting a bit longer. It's more typical to me for people to get to know each other for a couple of years before they get married. But shorter dating periods aren't uncommon.
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Do you mean we should wed during certain period dates?
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What most people here are used to is a longer period of time than you're considering to get to know someone before you marry them. When I say 'dating periods' I mean the amount of time spent getting to know each other before you're absolutely sure you want to marry them. So you know exactly what kind of person you're committing yourself to.
For most of us here, and possibly also for the person you're wishing to marry, getting to know someone after you're married isn't really something common where they come from. Which is why most people are so confused. Does that make sense?
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How do you know when you know them... "enough"? I've known him for three weeks. I believe that is plenty.
What do you do when you are "dating periods"?
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And usually, both people just kind of know. There's not a real system to it, but usually it's several months to a year of knowing each other.
When two people are dating, they just go out to dinner, movies, maybe dance, or do other things that they both enjoy together. Usually sometime along the way you meet each other's family, and if they approve, then marriage usually follows thereafter. But that's not guaranteed of every couple going out together. Sometimes people go out and they just don't click. Then they both go find other people and try again.
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That makes this whole endeavor a little terrifying.
What if we do not "click"?